Devoting energy towards it, either to change or complain about it will often be in vain. This list is very personal, but the message here is that very few items on this list are within your control. From macro-economics, global warming and poverty to the hobbies your friends have, the clothes your neighbours wear and the way other people drive their car. The former take ownership of their situation, the latter play the blame game and take a stance of victimisation. Reactive people focus their energy on what lies beyond their control. Proactive people focus their energy on what they can control and influence. Yet Covey believes the potential upside outweighs the downside.Īnother famous concept introduced by Covey is his Circle of Influence. But it also opens people up to the very acute pain that can come with interrelational problems. Interdependence can open a new dimension of meaningful associations, increased productivity, learning and growth. It makes little sense to develop human relationship skills if we’re not in some way aiming for interdependence. Independence is an achievement, but interdependence is a choice only independent people can make.
Dependence (you): I need you to give me direction, to nurture me, to take care of me.We evolve across a spectrum from dependence to independence to interdependence. As we grow up from kids to adults, our maturity continuously increases. It describes the continuous nature of incremental growth and progress. Understanding the roles people try to fulfil and seeing their deeper human drives is the first step towards effectively changing their thinking.Ĭovey describes a concept called the Maturity Continuum. Most people are family-centred, money-centred, pleasure-centred, work-centred or even self-centred. Not everyone has paradigms that are centred around these principles. Your goal should be to first understand the centres from which people make decisions. These principles manifest themselves in our lives as fairness, integrity, honesty, quality, growth, patience, encouragement and much more. These paradigms are born out of principles, deep fundamental truths that act like the natural laws of the human consciousness, unarguable and self-evident. In order to change your own or someone else’s behaviour and attitude, you must start by examining the basic paradigms from which this behaviour flows. Two people can see something entirely different but still both be right according to their paradigm.Ī paradigm shift is a transformation that allows you to widen your view and to shed new light on something. By adjusting your map of perception, you shift from seeing the world in one way, to another. It’s an explanation or model of something else. In order to change our perceptions and behaviour, it becomes more and more important to look at the lens we use to see the world instead of just through it.Ī paradigm is the frame of reference that describes the way we see something. The way we see things governs how we behave. Change your perspective with a Paradigm Shift
(Read the original post and many others on the M圜atalyst blog.) 1. Sharpen The Saw – Continuous renewal increases your ability to practice each other habit.Synergize – Value differences in perspective to uncover new possibilities and allow creativity.Seek First to Understand, Then to be Understood – Listen to fully get the other’s perspective.Think Win-Win – Create situations that are mutually beneficial and satisfying to each party.Put First Things First – Prioritize daily actions based on what’s important, not what’s urgent.
Begin with the End in Mind – Use your imagination to build a vision of whom you want to be.Be Proactive – You are in charge of your life, take responsibility for your choices.Real change comes from the inside-out, not from hacking at the leaves of attitude and behaviour via quick-fix personality ethic techniques, but by striking at the root, the fabric of our thought, the fundamental, the essential paradigms which give definition to our character and create the lens through which we see the world.Ĭovey presents us with seven habits to adopt, categorized as private victories and public victories which will help us create a balanced focus between doing and increasing our ability to do. To change your situation, you often need to change yourself, which means changing your behaviour, which means changing your perceptions.
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